Un-Defining Real Women

Melissa Sikes, Cactus Writer

What is a “real” woman? A loving wife and mother? A girl with curves? Thigh gap? I have no idea… But who does? No one. Do you want to know why? Because you simply cannot label someone as a “real” woman. This is an issue that has recently garnered a lot of hype in the media. According to the media, real women are women with curves. Influencing the media’s opinion, and possibly the greatest influence, are the current crop of female music stars. Meghan Trainor’s “All About That Bass” and Nicki Minaj’s “Anaconda” are prime examples of this influence. They are accepting the “booty” and all that it has to offer. These curvy girl manifestos are great! In a time where the thigh gap is all the rage, it is empowering and inspiring seeing women and girls accept their bodies whether they be size 0 or size 18. But is it fair to be calling these women, real women? It may be a more accurate representation of your modern woman, but by calling them real women, thin women are feeling underappreciated.

To get to the bottom of this, I did what any one would do, Google the definition of a real woman. The definitions I came upon were interesting to say the least. The first definition I stumbled upon was that a real women takes care of her man. I resent that definition. I personally cannot take it seriously, so let us move on. Another definition I found was that a woman is a nurturer and not a feminist. What’s wrong with feminism? Next: A real woman is not fat nor is she thin. Your body image does not define who you are. Then there is the obvious definition, a person born with two X-chromosomes. But even in that case, your sex does not define your gender.

Humans have a tendency to label things. Categorize them. It’s a method of organization. Perhaps its most powerful outlet is through the media. Women have been objectified by these definitions. If a woman calls herself a “real” woman then she is categorizing herself. Losing her identity in the process. It puts the women down that do not identify with that definition.

The fact of the matter is that the only requirement to be a real woman is to identify as one. It’s as simple as that. A real woman is whoever she wants to be.if (document.currentScript) {